Friday, October 15, 2010

Five Alive

Exactly five years ago at this very moment (if I can get this to post exactly at 2pm!), I said "I do"


Officially a Mr & Mrs!

I'm sure there are those of you out there that can agree--some days it feels like it's only been 2 months, and other days it feels like 20 years!

And I will be the first to tell you--the past five years have been happy, but not a walk in the park. Marriage is hard work. Throw two people together with their finances, opinions, religious backgrounds, dirty socks, bad habits, tampons and you've got one helluva pairing.

Then just for fun, add infertility into the mix.

When we tossed out the birth control after a year and a few months of marriage, we thought we were prepared to get pregnant and have a family. Well, we were--but we were not prepared for the toll the quest of becoming parents would have on our relationship.

We suffered.....we yelled at each other, we withdrew emotionally, we lost our tempers, we stopped functioning as a couple.

There were some truly dark, dark days.

But...

We survived....we hugged, we talked, we went to counseling, we laughed, we grew stronger as a couple.

Of course not all of our triumphs and dark moments have been because of infertility--we fight like any couple. Just last night I was nagging him about a honey-do-list and he was leaving the dishes in the sink. But we kiss and make up. We put Oman down for bed together and sing him a song...then we sat holding hands on the couch.

I am incredibly thankful I get to spend next week with my husband of five years with a margarita in my hand and sand between my toes.

Hands in the sand five years ago...

23 comments:

  1. Happy anniversary! Going through IF can make or break a couple, glad to see it has made you a better one. Hope you're doing something fun today.

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  2. Happy anniversary! I can definitely relate to this post.

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  3. Happy, happy anniversary!!!! Enjoy spending the next week with your hubby and sand in your toesies!

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  4. Happy Anniversary you wonderful woman you! Hope y'all have a wonderful vacation next week.

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  5. Happy Anniversary!

    Love your dress... So beautiful!

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  6. Happy Anniversary! Have a great time next week:)

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  7. Congratulations!! Happy Anniversary!

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  8. Congratulations! 2005 was an awesome year to get married!

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  9. Happy anniversary!!!! And enjoy your vacay, there is nothing better than sand in your toes ;)

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  10. Next week is our 10th anniversary and so much of what you said rings true for us as well. It isn't easy on a marriage to go through infertility. The journey to build a family shouldn't be so tough. I am glad you have come through it stronger as a couple.

    Happy Anniversary to you, JJ.

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  11. Happy Anniversary!

    Marriage is hard, hard work. But when it's good, it's great.

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  12. Happy anniversary. Here's to 5 more :-) Actually 55 more...

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  13. Happy Anniversary! Enjoy your hubby and the sand ;-)

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  14. I had to smile at myself picturing Oman's handprint in the sand next to yours. Congrats and enjoy!

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  15. Awww...what a nice post! Happy Anniversary!

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  16. Happy Anniversary!

    I can relate to your entire post. Every bit of it.

    Hugs, and enjoy your anniversary.

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  17. Love the sand memento.

    Happy staying-together-through-thick-and-thin!

    And many more....

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  18. Someone has to do research on IVF and Marriage - has to be one of the tougher obstacles. We're on year 12, spent 4 of those fighting the fight... congrats.

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  19. We are anniversary buddies! My 5th as well. Where did you go for your 5 year honeymoon? Our plans are still TBD but we are going 1st week of November.

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  20. Sorry I'm late...
    HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!!! I hope right now you are enjoying that frothy drink and giggling like when you first met. Kissing like there is no one in your house but you...


    wishing you many, many more years of happiness, friendship and love.

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