Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Eviction Notice

Hi, my name is JJ and I'm in denial.

After being on bed rest and in the hospital for 2 1/2 weeks, do I really get to give birth to Ron tomorrow?

These nurses keep coming in and prepping me for what tomorrow will be like: the prep, the c-section process, the recovery, where Ron will go, what Mook's responsibilities will be.

And I swear, the look I feel that is on my face when they are talking is: "Umm, you must have me confused with someone else."

You can either call it a blessing or a curse, or a bit of both--I have had to spend so much mental energy on just making it through each day, that the thought of having an end in sight with such a beautiful gift just blows my mind. Not to mention the fact that I am going to be a mom. I know that this last leg of pregnancy for a lot of women gives them time to think/prepare for what happens, ya know, after the baby is born--but I feel a bit green in that department. I'm gonna be flying by the (hopefully no longer SORE) seat of my pants. But I've waited a LONG time for this--so I WILL figure it out, and do the best damn job I can.

So I never got to write too much on my feelings about having a c-section. I'm OK with it--it's obviously medically necessary for me to have one. Im not doing this for convenience--as I learned so many people just assume. I just stopped telling people I was having a c-section--the comments got to be too much. I did fire back most of the time: I just want him here safe, and I'll do whatever I need to do to make that happen. Yes, I know my body is built to handle and go into labor. Yes, it probably is a beautiful experience. Yes, blah blah blah. But this is not something I have a say in. It is what it is, and the point is to bring Ron into this world.

And now some closing thoughts before I end up somewhere over the rainbow:

-First, I would write a novel but : a) Im too emotional b) Hunting for keys while almost flat on my back is difficult and c) Mook! He has quite the audience--Im sure he'll be sharing thoughts again soon--he loves hearing from each of you.

-Im quite sure I could win major prizes on The Price is Right-Ive seen every game they have in the past 2 1/2 weeks, and I would love to spin the wheeeeeel!

-Anyone else been watching The Bachelor? Can you believe he got rid of Stephanie and her 10 pounds of makeup? I have no clue who he'll end up with--but he kind of annoys me.

-I will be forever thankful for the nurses Ive had--has anyone ever done anything for their nursing staff? There are a select few that I want to come back and visit and express my appreciation.

-Did you all know that anyone with previa has a higher chance of having to have a hysterectomy? Yea, I didnt know that until yesterday's visit from my OB. I know he's just making me aware of everything, but that scares the poop outta me.

-ONLY thing I would change about this whole experience: not having to check my TP in fear EVERY time I went to the bathroom. Im positive I saw a grey hair yesterday. I would go through this all over again-I know it will be worth it.

-And we cant say it enough: the fact that we have this community to support us makes a HUGE difference-both Mook and I are so grateful, and Ron will know all about each of you one day

-Mook will most likely update twitter first tomorrow, since that will be the fastest access.

-I unfortunately need to go back to laying down, so know Ill be holding onto each of your thoughts tomorrow, 24 hours from now!

-Ron has come such a long way...no words to describe how I feel to be at this point

79 comments:

  1. YEAHHHHHHH IM SO HAPPY!!!! YOu and Mook will be great parents!! DOnt stress over what you cant control!! the C section is a must and who the flip cares what other ppl think you should so with YOUR body!!! hey look at it this way.. something the size of a watermelon doesnt get to come out something the size of a lemon.. FEEL BETTER?? LOL*** Ill be thinking of you and I cant wait to find out the name of "Ron". I hope you have a safe and uneventful delivery! I look forward to reading about you tomorrow night! Take care JJ and Mook! My prayers are with all 3 of you beautiful people!!

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  2. Good luck tomorrow. I hope it goes really well for you and Ron.

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  3. People can be such jerks. It would have been really tempting to say "is my body built to bleed out? because that is what going in to labor with previa means a
    **hole" Of course, you are nice, and wouldn't say a-hole part...
    I'm so excited! I check in every monrning after I get up (and shove pills down 3 cats throats...)

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  4. YAY! So excited for you! I hope you have a wonderful day! And for all those c-section naysayers, I say this:

    Tomorrow is the birth of a sweet lil guy that has been long awaited. It is a day of joy and happiness and one to be filled with hope and a glimpse of the future in 10 tiny fingers and 10 tiny toes. HOW he arrives is irrelevant, the fact he is ARRIVING is to be celebrated!

    Sending huge hugs and all my best...
    Katrina

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  5. I'm so happy for you...I'm just speechless. No luck needed for tomorrow; everything is going to go just fine. I needed to delurk to say...I don't know. I'm so pleased for you. I can't wait to see little Ron!

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  6. I am so friggin excited for you, I am just a bookoodle of butterflies! I couldn't imagine what you must be feeling. But we are here for you, praying every step of the way.

    BTW- you will be getting a note from me in the mail. Please disregard the timing in it. I wrote it before I knew that Ron was going to make his big appearance TOMORROW!! All of the good wishes and all still apply.

    Can't wait to hear from Mook, You and Ron tomorrow. Lots of love and prayers, JJ!

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  7. GL tomorrow! Can't wait to hear of Ron's arrival. :)

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  8. Oh, JJ - I'm so excited and happy for you - I know you'll come through tomorrow just great, and that Ron couldn't be a luckier baby.

    We did take a gift into the NICU the day we took the boys home - brownies and LOTS of chocolate - for all the nursing staff and doctors. I'm sure something similar would be greatly appreciated by your nursing staff. Maybe with individual small thank-you cards to your favorite nurses?

    Thinking of you much today and tomorrow!

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  9. Lots and lots of hugs for tomorrow! I'll be thinking about you and sweetpea!! :) *hugs*

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  10. I am sooo excited for you. The first time you leave the hospital will be surreal (SP?) I felt like an alien being reintroduced to society after two weeks in a hospital bed-I can only imagine those who have been in longer.

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  11. I am here and after reading I am now crying...for you, for mook and for little ron...I am so thrilled!!! Hopefully everything goes smoothly..I had a c-section with my twins and I would choose that any day over my vaginal delivery of my first born....just think tomorrow your miracle will be here....24 hours....or less now I guess

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  12. Tooooomorrow! Tomorrow! We luv ya, tomorrow....

    Sorry. Sorry. Couldn't help it. Had to be done. Hurray! For you and Ron and Mook. This is great news and I will be checking twitter even more often than I usually do.

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  13. I hate when people judge (c-section)...would they rather something bad happen to little Ron? UGH!

    I can't believe he's going to BE HERE! Aahhh! You must be SO excited, nervous, happy, scared...eek!

    Wishing you all the best.

    xoxo

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  14. So exciting, JJ. I will be holding all 3 of you in my thoughts and prayers tomorrow and sending you all the best energy for a safe, smooth and easy birth.

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  15. SO HAPPY FOR YOU! Soon you will have little Ron here, can you believe it???

    GOOD LUCK TOMORROW! Prayers said and fingers crossed!

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  16. It's great to hear from you! I am so excited for you and Mook. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow!
    JP

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  17. Best of luck tomorrow for eviction day! I hope all goes well and Ron comes in screamin' and a kickin'!

    You've made it! You're going to be a Mommy!

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  18. OMG! I'm so excited that the day is pretty much here! I'll keep you two in my prayers that all goes smoothly and you have a uneventful recovery.

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  19. Well it's about damn time you're gonna give birth. ;) I cannot imagine what you are feeling and am sure I will revisit this post when my time comes. Going from woman to mom in an instant is probably the highest promotion you will ever get and no one is ever prepared. It's kind of like going from the mail room to VP in a large company over night with just a memo to tell you about your new job. So fumble all you like. Everyone has.

    As far as the C-Section goes, he's coming out safely right? Then who the hell cares how he comes out? Even if you option to have a C-Section instead of go through a vaginal birth, it is still your choice. Do people not understand that the whole birthing process is you and your partners experience. No one else's. I wish you luck with your recovery and remember to let people help you. Fanning and being fed grapes is an option, but I am sure you will suffice with someone making you something you can eat or drink with one hand. Can't wait to hear how much he actually weighs (ultrasounds are so unpredictable) and see his gorgeous face. Good luck. Big hugs and we'll be thinking about you...MOM!!!

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  20. best wishes tomorrow. you're in my thoughts and prayers. i hope all goes well, and can't wait to 'meet' ron!!!!

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  21. you guys have an amazing journey! and it doesn't matter a WHIT how Ron arrives into the world - whatever is healthiest for you and him is the way he should be born and it will be beautiful no matter what!

    i cannot wait to check in here with you tomorrow!!! you are doing great, woman!!!

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  22. SQUUEEE!! You are almost a momma!

    I did do something special for my nurses--I sent them a fruit arrangement from Edible Arrangements. I figured they could use some nice snacks in their break room, etc.

    A scheduled C-Section is actually a nice way to give birth (if I do say so myself). what do they say--umm..just relax! :-)

    The good news is after a C, you will be able to be with Ron rather quickly, so its a pretty normal birth experience.

    I don't twitter (I was pushed kicking and screaming into FB), so I will await some updates here.

    GOOD LUCK!!!

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  23. Usually I check in at night, so glad I stopped in early. Congratulations!!! also early, but I believe you deserve a round of applause for the strength & Faith you have shown this whole pregnancy. Even though Ron wont make his appearance till tomorrow, know that you are fully equipped to be a fabulous Momma - after all you have done an amazing job thus far. I will continue to keep you, Mook & Baby Ron in my thoughts and prayers tonight and tomorrow. I hope your last "child free" night is one filled with peace and happiness.

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  24. Girl, you got this. I know it's scary and overwhelming and terrifying, but you and Mook are going to kick ass at this whole entire thing. Remember, things ALWAYS work out somehow... it may seem less than perfect in the moment and it may not be what you planned or imagined, but it will work out.
    I absolutely cannot wait to "meet" Ron. Baby girl over here is doing flips of joy for you all. (me too)
    *Love, hugs, the whole works*

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  25. Ugh, I don't know why your updates don't show up on my bloglines until the next day (I just stopped by to see if there was an update).

    You are get to meet your sweet little boy tomorrow!!!!!

    Your post brought me to tears! I'm happy for every single IF person I've met through the internet, but seeing you are the only blogger I've actually had the pleasure to hang out with (twice) I feel so much more connected to this event!

    I will be thinking of you all tomorrow and wishing you all the best in the world!

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  26. Hang in there!!!! You guys are in my thoughts and prayers, that everything goes smoothly tomorrow.

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  27. I am so happy for you my friend. i will be thinking and praying for you tomorrow.HUGS!!!!!!! can wait to meet little ROn

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  28. Wishing you the smoothest c-section tomorrow! I am so happy you will have Ron in your arms. Tomorrow is the start of your family of 3!!!!!!

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  29. Hi! I'm a lurker who followed you over from Redbook! Just wanted to say GOOD LUCK and CONGRATS! I know you and Mook will be great parents!

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  30. Can't believe he's almost HERE.

    I'll be thinking of you all tomorrow. I like the date -- them's some good numbers.

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  31. Best of luck tomorrow! I'll be thinking about the three of you! :)

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  32. Oh JJ I am jumping for joy for you guys. I will be obsessively checking on you tomorrow!

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  33. Good luck tomorrow - I'm so excited for you and Mook to finally meet Ron! You are going to be great parents.

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  34. You go girl! Get Ron into your arms, enough of this hanging around uterus junk. I know nothing about c-sections but, I did have a laporotomy which gives you the same ugly scar (which is so low no one sees and it will remind you of the day Ron was born). Here is my advice - Drugs are good, take them, let Mook take care of you and Ron, go easy on yourself, be proud of all that you have acheived and know that there are people all over the world thinking of the 3 of you - what a way to be welcomed in!

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  35. JJ & Mook - I am so excited for you guys! To have followed your journey from the beginning and now to have this day arrive makes me both thrilled for you and also gives me hope that I'll get there too eventually.

    I must admit, that the first time I read through your post and you talked about checking TP and then saying you saw a grey hair, my addled (and apparently corrupt) brain inserted the words "down there" after grey hair. At which point I thought to myself that the stress must be off the charts to turn the hairs down South grey. Then I realized that that's not in fact what you said at all! When you're at the mercy of the wand and the RE's prying fingers as much as I've been as of late, you sometimes forget that not all anatomical references have to do with the lady bits!

    Anyway - congrats in advance and I'll be keeping you guys in my thoughts tomorrow!

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  36. By the time we finally had our son, I would have given birth out of my ear if necessary to get a healthy baby. You don't get a medal for a 'natural' vaginal delivery--I'm still waiting for mine! :) What you DO get after a c-section is pretty cool: an untraumatized pelvic floor. We'll leave it at that!
    Good luck to you tomorrow--can't wait to hear that Ron is here and healthy!

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  37. Good luck for tomorrow. Just think, this time in 24 hours Ron will be here!

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  38. Good luck tomorrow. We are all anxiously awaiting Ron's arrival. You and Mook will do fine. As for doing something for the nurses, they always appreciate party trays and the like -- stuff they can eat on the run. Or if there have been a few who have been very good to you, a small pin or something they can put on their ID badges is nice. My Mom is a labor & delivery nurse, and she has a collection of little angel pins from patients, which she proudly displays attached to her ID badge. She can tell you the story behind each and every one of them.

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  39. I'm SO happy for you guys! I can't believe Ron will make his debut tomorrow! You've been through so much...I'm very happy that the end is near for you and you'll have your beautiful boy to show for it.

    Good luck tomorrow!

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  40. Don't let anybody EVER question the manner in which you are giving birth. You are doing what you need to do to get Ron here in the safest way possible. I too had a c-section and wouldn't change anything about it.

    Also, just a side note - it's really not that bad. There's something to be said for not having a contraction. And the recovery wasn't terrilble either - just get up and about as soon as you can and you'll be feeling better in no time. Call me at anytime if you need to chat w/ a kindred spirit.

    You're going to do great! I'll be thinking of you, Mook and Ron tomorrow!

    Weasley is indeed our king!

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  41. Anyone who says that labor is a beautiful experience has either never done it or can't remember it. Stupid people and their prejudices.

    Good luck tomorrow! I'll be thinking of you.

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  42. Tomorrow - wow, I'll be thinking of you! I know it will all go just perfectly - it sounds like you're both in good hands at that hospital.

    Why would you have to have a hysterectomy?

    I almost had to have one after giving birth to my little guy (vaginal birth) because my uterus wouldn't contract on its own to stop my bleeding - so I was bleeding out a ton...luckily they got it under control moments before rushing me in for the gutting procedure!

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  44. JJ, I'm so excited for you and hoping everything goes smoothly tomorrow. Don't worry, even preparing to be an adoptive mom still had me feel like I didn't know what the heck I was doing at first. Ron won't know any better. Good luck!

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  45. Don't matter how he comes out. Healthy baby, healthy mama. That is all that matters. Anyone who says anything else is a toad-brain.

    Will you be posting pictures? Love, love love looking at cute little babies (totally unnerstan' if answer is 'no'...am just askin').

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  46. Be calm, confident and take it easy. It is going to be great!

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  47. Wishing you the best tomorrow. I can't wait to see the announcement.

    I remember chatting on email about songs for your transfer. Mother and Child reunion and the sort. And now here you are.

    Awwww. I am so happy for you.

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  48. I am so effin happy for you guys!! Prayers for a safe and speedy delivery!

    Cant wait to hear updates.

    Big hugs!

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  49. Good Luck, it's been an unbelievable ride and is going to be sooo worth it!!!

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  50. I haven't commented before but have been lurking since your Redbook days. I just wanted to wish you all the very best for tomorrow - I am so excited and happy for you. I hope everything goes wonderfully well and both you and Ron come out of it all beautifully healthy and happy.

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  51. Thinking of you, praying for you, sending you love...and a big AMEN to what K said. Thank God for the c-section that brought my babies into this world safe & sound and I pray the same for little Ron!!
    All the best to you and your FAMILY tomorrow!!!! Woo hoo!!!!

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  52. My thoughta and love are being sent your way!!

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  53. Yay!!! So exciting that he will be here soon. Hope tomorrow goes well and that it all happens safely and with minimal fuss etc. I'll be thinking of you.

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  54. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow, JJ. You are doing a fabulous job and you are going to be such an amazing mommy! Ron is a lucky little boy. ((LOTS OF HUGS))

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  55. Don't worry about feeling green - when baby is in your arms it will come to you. Sure there are things to learn, but a lot of it really does come by instinct.

    And also - don't listen to what people say or think (regarding C-sections or natural birth or anything else). You do what's right for you and to hell with everyone else.

    And finally - good luck and I can't wait to see pictures and hear of the big news.

    xo

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  56. Oh, JJ! I am SO SO SO EXCITED for you! I can't believe it's already here! Tomorrow you get to meet little "Ron" (I can't wait to know what his real name is!.

    Good luck tomorrow. I will be thinking about you!

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  57. My mother is a nurse and when she wants to show nurses (usually taking care of her ailing parents) appreciation she makes them huge gift baskets of candy and treats. Who doesn't love a good chocolate truffle? And you can just leave the whole thing at the nurses station w/a note of appreciation calling out the ones that you liked best.
    Congrats!
    (And I'm so glad you didn't know about the hysterectomy chanes. I was partial previa (that resolved itself by 3rd trimester) and made that discovery via google, so you've saved yourself much stressing.)

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  58. Best of luck to you tomorrow JJ! I hope Ron's birth is completely and utterly beautiful and amazing. Can't wait to see pictures!

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  59. I am so unbelievably excited and happy for you, JJ (and Mook!). Enjoy the last moments with Ron tucked inside of you and think warm happy thoughts about finally holding your sweet boy in your arms tomorrow! XOXO

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  60. oh my gosh!!! I can't even tell you how excited I am for you! I know how you feel right now. I felt the exact same way less than 24 hours out from getting my induction with my twins. I was also terrified of the labor part though, so it's kinda nice you don't have to think about that. I'm sending the three of you tons of good thoughts and prayers for a smooth arrival of little Mr. Ron... can't wait for the pictures!!!

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  61. will be thinking of you tomorrow!!! Can't wait to see pictures and all :)

    I loved my nurses too - on hospital bedrest you really get to know them, huh? Just before we were discharged, DH went out and bought a chocolate cake and a carrot cake to say thank you. I wrote a card too.

    Ron is so lucky to have such dedicated parents!

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  62. I hope tomorrow is everything you have always dreamed it would be. Your words full of emotion show what an amazing mother you already are.

    I will be thinking of you and Mook as you welcome Ron into your world.

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  63. Really? Squeezing a poor little head through a too-small passageway is a beautiful experience? For whom? C-sections are just fine. Because a healthy baby is what's important. Congrats and good luck...it will be a lot quicker than you imagine.

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  64. If I could just apologize for all the jerks that have such uneducated opinions about C-section and thinking it means one is taking the easy way out. I've had both and let me say that each is different but, in the end I can say they are very similar - one take less time if you by-pass the labor aspect but it take longer to recover. In either case what is important is that I'll be thinking of you Mook and Ron tomorrow, I know you'll make terrific parents.

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  65. I'm utterly ~thrilled~ for you all tomorrow. Thrilled. :)

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  66. Good luck JJ- it's a surreal experience......

    Don't sweat the c-section thing. I personally think that even if it were completely elective, which it's not, it's nobody's business whether you pop a baby out the usual way or via the sunroof.

    xx

    J

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  67. Good luck tomorrow! I hope Ron comes out screaming!

    I work on a maternity floor and can say that food is ALWAYS appreciated. There's a Dunkin Donuts right near the hospital so we frequently get a dozen donuts from patients, but even that is always appreciated. Or even just a nice thank you note sent to the staff. We hang them up on a bulletin board then.

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  68. Almost there!!!

    Can't wait to meet Ron!

    As a fellow c-section girl, my only advice is to get up and moving as soon as you feel up to it.

    Thinking about all three of you...

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  69. wishing all 3 of you the best for tomorrow!

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  70. Sending you smooth and safe delivery vibes. I will be keeping y'all in my thought tomorrow.

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  71. I am thinking of you today! I am so excited for you and praying that everything works out perfectly!!! EKKKK You are gunna be a MOMMY in a few short hours!!

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  72. YEAH!! So happy Ron is finally coming out. You will be the perfect Mom, I have no doubt about it.

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  73. My c-section was a beautiful, serene experience. My little boy is now 2, healthy and happy, making my heart burst with love and pride every single day. I wish you all the best as you bring your little one into the world!

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  74. Hooorraaayy!!! Love the "Weasley is our king" at the end. So excited for you and Mook and Ron. Can't wait to "meet" your baby boy.

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  75. You guys are amazing! I had such little bumps in my pregnancy compared to you. Your constant humor is what kept you going...KEEP IT, YOU WILL NEED IT MORE.
    No matter what type or what happens in pregnancy people have something to say. I mean even if you had a smooth time, people would tell you "Oh your so lucky, so in so had this" and then proceed to give you a horror story-the best IMO only is to tell them to shut up. I did it and added a "your story is not helping me".
    But I digress, I wish you the best and thanx for your updates. I will be thinking of you all day my dear...

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  76. Good luck honey - I'm thinking of you all! xoxo

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  77. I can hardly wait and since I don't twitter I will be checking the website dutifully...

    I loved our L&D nurses, too. And dropped off 2 doz cupcakes from a specialty cupcake bakery in Portland (saint cupcake) along with a nice note to show our thanks. I figured that when you work a 12 hour shift, you deserve a little cupcake during it.

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